Learning that you are not able to have children can be very devastating for many women. If becoming a mother is a dream that you want to see come to fruition but you are not able to have a child on your own, adoption may be a great option to consider. When you adopt a child, there are many factors that you must take into consideration.
There are many women who find themselves pregnant during a time in their life when they are not able to properly provide for the child. Some of these women choose to put their baby up for adoption so that they can have the life that their mother cannot provide for them. If you have found a baby to adopt, it is important to make sure that you take the proper legal steps.
In order to ensure that the adoption is legal, you need to meet with an attorney. The attorney will be able to draft an agreement for both you and the mother of the child to sign. The following guide walks you through a few of the stipulations that the attorney can list in the agreement if you so choose.
Regular Drug Tests
If you feel that there is a chance that the mother of the child may take drugs during her pregnancy, you can have a clause listed in the agreement that states that the mother must be willing to take drug tests on a regular basis. Be sure to indicate that the timing of the drug tests will be random so that any drug use can be detected.
It is best to have the attorney include detailed information about the drug testing such as where the tests will be conducted, what drugs will be covered and what will happen if the tests come back positive. Consider if you will be able to take care of a baby who is born addicted to drugs.
Your Monetary Obligation
In the agreement, the financial situation will need to be detailed intricately. It is customary for the adoptive parents to help the pregnant mother financially during her pregnancy and when she gives birth. Many couples choose to help the mother by paying for her medical expenses and investing in healthy foods for her to eat during her pregnancy.
You need to consider if you are willing to help the mother with room and board along the way, as well. It is important to remember that your future child is growing in her belly, and if she is not living a great quality of life while pregnant, the baby is not either.
Consider adding stipulations about any help you are willing to give her beyond paying for the medical bills and providing food for her.
Visitation After the Birth
Within the agreement, the attorney will stipulate what the visitation arrangements will be between the mother and the baby after the baby has been born. There are some mothers who do not want to have a relationship with the baby after they are born and some who want to make sure that the baby is happy and healthy as they grow.
It is up to you to decide which option you feel would be the best option for your family. You can choose to have the mother have as much or as little interaction with your little one as you would like.
When you find a baby that you want to adopt, meet with Paul A. Meding, P.A., Attorney at Law, to have the agreement created for everyone to sign. Discuss with the mother what will be listed in the agreement beforehand so that you can rest assured she will agree with the stipulations when it is time to sign the contract.